Virgin Hair EVERYWHERE

ITS NO SECRET, ITS EVERYWHERE! 

Yes I mean everywhere.   

With so many different available patterns and and textures, there's no wonder why women of EVERY RACE, GENDER, AGE and SOCIAL/ECONOMIC BACKGROUND are now wearing hair extensions/weaves. It seems that women with naturally curly hair want straight hair/ women with naturally straight hair want curly hair; women with naturally fine hair want thicker, more textured/ coarse hair, etc.  and now even MEN are enjoying the luxuries of having someone else's hair semi-permanently installed into their heads for swinging purposes. BASICALLY we always want what we don't have! Seriously though, there are plenty of benefits to wearing hair extensions, we'll explore a few. I'll also point out some very important hair care tips for your natural hair, which most people tend to skip!

POPULAR REASONS TO WEAR HAIR EXTENSIONS

~To add length/ volume

~To experiment color/style with minimal damage to natural hair

~Time convenience

How to choose the best hair for YOU

Shame on all women who buy hair without taking the texture of you NATURAL/REAL hair into consideration. The main objective of hair extensions is to LENGTHEN/ADD VOLUME to your natural hair, so ladies if you have intentions on leaving out your hair, it is best to choose a texture that matches as closely to your hair texture as possible.

~Choose a texture thats easy for you to manage once you've left your stylist!

REMEMBER to select a style/hair texture that you can maintain in between the visit to your  stylist! We all have that one friend who's hair only looks good once she first leaves the salon and looks BUSTED the next day. Please stop making yourself and your stylist look bad, and secondly start being more responsible with your money. 

~Choose a color that compliments your complexion and lifestyle!

DO's

If you're THAT PERSON that prances out of the salon looking like you're about to hit a stage/pole/or photo-shoot, but only YOU'RE NOT... instead going to an office building or some other "practical job"... please do yourself a favor a choose a "practical" hair color". Practical doesn't mean "boring", just something that matches your lifestyle AND doesn't take away from your everyday wardrobe. Remember what looks good on "her" may not look good on "YOU". Choose a color that enhances your natural beauty, not diminish it or be a distraction to others. It can be edgy and fun, but still complimentary. Also if you are coloring your natural/real hair be sure to consider the health of your hair before proceeding with any chemical processes. 

 

 DON'T

                                 

~Choose an EXTENSION INSTALLATION METHOD thats suitable for your life style and
your budget!

If you know you are going to be exercising heavily, it wouldn't be wise to have you extensions bonded with glue or tape. You want to choose a a more sturdy installation method such as a sew-in micro links, or heat shrink tubes . You also want to consider the differences between the textures of you natural hair in comparison to the extensions you want to add because the differences in texture may make maintenance of the hair more difficult or maintaing your natural/real hair in between can become  inconvenient and maybe even damaging. Take into consideration the cost of installation as well as how frequently you will have to have it "tightened" up by your stylist.

PROTECT YOUR NATURAL/REAL HAIR

Some women tend to forget that they have hair underneath their hair extensions! Thats so annoying because what you all forget is that extensions should be used to ENHANCE, you should not HAVE to wear extensions. When you have healthy hair, it really helps your hair extensions look more natural. Unless you have some sort of medical condition, the only reason you don't have a healthy head of hair on your heads is because you neglected to maintain the health of your hair. 

TIPS TO PROTECT YOUR HAIR!!!!

~Use hair bond remover if you have used bonding glue. It helps the bond loosen WITH MINIMAL DAMAGE to your real hair.

~Ask a friend who PAYS ATTENTION TO DETAIL to help you cut the threads if your extensions are sewn on! Don't take the risk if you are unsure! If you can not make it to your stylist or you're not familiar with the process, ask for help! Trust me, your friend isn't going to care how you look without your weave in, relax!

~Do NOT LEAVE in your sew in for more than TWO MONTHS!!! Hair starts it's NATURAL 'DREADING' aka MATTING process! The more dry and the more coarse your natural hair is, the more quickly it will mat! Of course there will be natural shedding but excessive shedding usually occurs from the hair being dry and matted post sew-in. 

~DO TREAT and DEEP CONDITION your natural tresses after each extension installation. Hair that is kept braided up is deals with more "stress" than naturally free flowing hair. Just because you don't comb your hair daily doesn't mean it is any more safe. Restore missing vitamins and nutrients during your visits are VITAL! If you are your own stylist be very aware of the need for restorative moisturizing hair products. I'VE POSTED A FEW OF MY FAVE PRODUCTS BUT YOU CAN MAKE YOUR OWN AT HOME WITH A LITTLE RESEARCH AND TIME!

~Give your hair at least a few days rest in between the stressful things. Try to give your natural hair a break every now and then to show it some love. 

VIRGIN HAIR SUPPLIERS

Although most everyone is starting to want in on the business I want to share a two vendors with quality hair! Check them out!

~Kaye's Fab Hair -

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KAYE'S FAB HAIR carry's FOUR different textures and ships NATION WIDE! This is the hair I wear. It can be colored or straightened silky WITH THE USE OF QUALITY PRODUCTS and still maintain its curl pattern and silk/softenesss! She also has lace closure's available PLACE YOUR ORDERS NOW!

~Bella Dream Hair

http://www.belladreamhair.com

I hope my post was informative for those who wear or are thinking about trying hair extensions! If there is anything more you'd like to read about regarding this or any other post please leave a comments!!! 

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Dating Games

GAMES! Yes I think we all play dating "games" because most of the men I encounter are NOT to be taken seriously. You would be surprised at how many men and women have poor dating etiquette.... You would be surprised at the amount of people that would waste my time if I allowed them!  I'm not old school but there are just some things that shouldn't change. Let me lay down a few ground rules with examples to accompany each.

1. Set your standards in the BEGINNING.

For example women, don't allow a man to invite you on a date and then request or even insinuate that you pay for the meal. We're American, NOT DUTCH.

The more you let a man come over your house, the less y'all will go out. If y'all start off just chilling most likely thats all that will ever happen... no wining and dining but remember thats what you allowed lol. Men,  do not take a woman to Ruth Chris on the first date knowing you can't even afford Apple Bee's every other Friday. Don't start something you cant maintain, consistency is key! If you can only afford TGI Friday's be real because that would ultimately lead to disappointment and thats what you should try to avoid when making dating/relationship decisions. Im not saying a woman cant treat a man to a date, however men should never ask to be treated, and secondly a woman should also beware of a standard she maybe setting!

2. Extend Invites, don't IMPOSE

It is RUDE to invite yourself to some one's house. You wait for someone to extend the invitation or you can extend an invitation to your place. Im noticing people don't think of the how dangerous it is to let people you are newly acquainted with know where you live, male or female. When I first moved to ATL this crazy guy in my neighbor who was obsessed with me popped my tires HA! It wasn't funny then but now I laugh. On another note ladies, you can not let a man that's "pursuing you" get that comfortable with you too quickly. I can sit in my house and cook for my friends, Im not cooking for man that's pursuing me, because Im VERY AWARE of the fact that the less men HAVE to do, the less they WILL do. SET YOUR STANDARDS. 

MEN!! Stop letting women you don't know come to your house! Property damage is REAL when it comes to a bitter bitch. Don't forget about the women who set men up to get robbed, thats very real. Watch out for the people who "accidentally" leave things at your house. Those are the people who need a reason to come back over or want to see if you hid it from the girl you brought in between her most recent visit lol BEWARE Do y'all even think about the CRAZY EX she could have when you invite yourself to a female's house? 

3. Monetary Expectations

I DO think that women are supposed to be taken care of. However, I also believe that a woman should be able to support her own needs and if a man is around he should be willing to do whatever his budget allows him to do to make the woman he is "pursuing" have an easier life. I never understood how a woman could be without something, yet she's in an intimate relationship with someone... thats putting energy into something that doesn't yield a reward. Put energy to positive things to yield positive energy.
I DO NOT think it is ok for a man to not have his own and depend on women for support from the beginning of the relationship or if hardship arises within a longterm relationship, for too long of an extended time period.

A man is supposed to have his own and a man is supposed to provide. It is weak for a man to be so focused on the wrong things in life, when finding balance, making longterm money, and protecting/providing for family are the most important things. Everything else is extra. (SIDE NOTE: Money is important but  a healthy body and mind are also vital. )

*SIDE NOTE*
*I've heard countless men cry about "women being gold diggers" but that's nothing but the pot calling the kettle black. Most men want the temporary fulfillment of digging the gold located within a woman's mine... enjoying every aspect of the beauty of a woman without doing the bare minimum to nourish or feed that woman. I can understand how it is so easy for men to "treat" women the way y'all let them. It starts with YOU. *

The games that are played when you're dating someone can be fun or a headache. 

I use the term game because ultimately, thats what it feels like most times...

Two people trying to figure one another out without giving the other person too much intel on their own lives. I guess its just human nature to want to know as much as you can about others without revealing too much of yourself out of fear of judgment or disappointment even.  My only advice is to put out what it is you want to get back in return. 

Recently I've decided to utilize my time finding balance within myself. I'm aware that I have negative qualities about myself that need to be fine tuned and balanced so that I can become my best self. I am focusing on making my ideas, thoughts, and dreams a reality; I am building a brand. I am aware that the energy I will emit on my journey will attract people to me, however I am now and  will continue to be very selective of the people whom are allowed to directly associate and build interpersonal relationships with. I have some time to play dating games, but unless you're interested in a game of Chess (deep intellectual/monetary conversations), Im not interested. Not interested in Checkers (people pretending to be intellectually/strategically making moves in life), spades (bullsh*tters/sh*t talkers), football (close physical contact lol) ... I think y'all get my weird analogies. 

Basically I just want everyone to love and appreciate yourselves, and ultimately Protect yourselves when playing these dating games. Always make time for yourself because no one can love you better than you. Make time to learn yourself and know yourself before you hold other accountable to do so. Practice the qualities of the person you want to attract. I hope what I've shared sits with some of you, its never too late for growth!

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THE ULTIMATE TRAP!

Thinking about having a baby?? Don't get trapped, GET A PET INSTEAD!

Let me start off by stating, I absolutely LOVE KIDS! 

Even though "making a baby" is easy to do, raising a child is not. Children are a huge responsibilty and an even greater expense, and I cant understand why people are bringing children into the world so carelessly... I cant understand why women go into a temporary relationship and then leave with A WHOLE ENTIRE PERMANENT BABY!! I know and meet a plenty of SINGLE parents who say things like, "DONT EVER HAVE KIDS!" and " I wish I could have this/these same child/children, just at a later time/ with a different person." I'm always sure to ask people why it is they decided to have/keep a child and the answers vary  per individual: 

"One too many abortions"

"I/WE were in love"

"I dont believe in abortions"

"I wanted some one to love me unconditionally"

"It was an accident."

"Ive lived my life I'm ready for a baby now."

These are the most common responses, although there are many other reasons and it

makes me wonder if more of those fake "take home babies" should've been handed out in middle and high school! (lol)  Although no one was honest enough to admit that they had a child with a person because they wanted to KEEP SOMEONE in their lives FOREVER aka "TRAPPING", it didn't have to be said because based on their long drawn out explanations of why they thought having a baby was the best thing to do at the time, it was UNDERSTOOD!  I wonder how it feels to know someone is dealing with you because they HAVE TO...

To address the whole abortion excuse, I'd like to point out that abortion shouldn't be used as your primary method of birth control! Fortunately, I've never had to have one but if my other contraceptives (condom+ pill) fail me, abortion is definitely my NEXT move. I'm not sure how many abortions qualify as too many, but I'm sure if I had one, I would try not to put myself in a position to have another. With such easy access to contraceptives, why would I or anyone for that matter?

How many people have you dated/talked to/ dealt with, and thought you were in love with? Now think about having a child with each of those people... sounds crazy to me. Being in love, especially out of marriage/wanting someone to love you unconditionally are two of the most immature reasons to create a life. People in love do crazy things, and obviously that includes having a baby! How is it that you put such demanding expectations on a person that DID NOT ASK TO BE HERE, yet you're already demanding something from it? 

WOMEN STOP HAVING BABIES WITH MEN WHO ALREADY HAVE KIDS!!!!

SERIOIUSLY!!!!! What makes y'all have a child with a man that already has a them?? I would think the kids/babymomma's are the reason he decide to move on... obviously "he ain't bout that life". I don't date men with kids but if I did, I'd know that me not having one with him puts me at a huge advantage over his "baby momma" ... he's HAVE to deal with her, but would choose to deal with me because he wants to! Why would y'all want to be on a list? That would make me feel the opposite of special.

PSA To MEN!!!:

START BEING MORE SELECTIVE OF WHERE YOU PLANT YOUR SEED!!! 

If you have a crazy "baby momma", its because that is where you planted your seed. How many men have a child because the person you were having sex with wanted to keep it?!?! You'd be shocked at how many women get knocked up outside of a committed relationship and KEEP THE BABY, PROTECT YOURSELVES!  How would it make you feel as man to have to take on a responsibility or neglect a responsibility you never wanted to have? Did you take all of the necessary precautions on your end to prevent pregnancy? 

If precautions were taken, and somehow pregnancy occurred, is it wrong for a man to neglect his unwanted responsibility? These are things men should think about before you go poking around without using protection, you may end up trapping yourselves.

 

 

I know for a fact that there are some circumstances where it is the man that "TRAPPED" the female. To some men, having a baby with a women is "marking their territory". Those are the men that are usually gone within the first year of the baby being born! 

I can't even fathom someone bailing on me within the first year of a LIFETIME job! There are so many women who fall into that trap because they were so blind and "in love". These are the women who have sex with their "baby daddy" randomly over the course of years out familiarity or the thought that they may actually reconnect because the share a "bond" aka offspring. 

I wouldn't DARE put myself in a situation where I have to deal with someone who abandoned ME and/or MY CHILD. I wouldn't dare give someone the impression that I could ever be an OPTION to them after having made such a major commitment and sacrifice of creating a life with them. 

PLANNED PREGNANCY

Be realistic about your plans to conceive a child. Your biological clock is irrelevant in your 20's, it shouldn't be a topic of discussion or an area of concern.  Ask yourself if you're ready to give up certain luxuries in your life. Do you have enough money saved? Is your partner prepared? Do you have a partner that is prepared to do everything that you're willing to do? Do you have money saved? Have you accomplished all the things you want in life? Are you ready to do ALL THAT IT TAKES to love, support, and raise a person who NEVER ASKED TO BE HERE? 

Although I believe you should be married before children, I do understand that life happens, however I would think that being a single parent with one child would prevent you from having A SECOND CHILD WITH OUT A HUSBAND.

Having a baby at the wrong time of your life can greatly change things for anyone, even a married couple. I just wanted to briefly share my thoughts on the subject and I encourage everyone to use better judgment, appreciate themselves/ their lives/ bodies more. Parents are supposed to guide you through life and help make it easier, so why wouldn't you make all the necessary arrangements to give your child the best life it could have? 

I choose to wait and until then its just me and my BITCH!

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